You’re Scared To Leave the Narcissist for Financial Reasons

Lori Moulton
5 min readFeb 9, 2024

You’re afraid you can’t make it on your own.

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When you live with a narcissist, you decide at some point that maybe it is time to leave, because you can’t take another minute of the silent treatment, rage episodes, and controlling behaviors. The problem is, you don’t know how you would make it financially. Not only is there the issue of paying for a place to live, but there are things the kids need, repairs for the house, and other necessities that you rely on your partner for.

And, if you were to leave, what about attorney fees? A divorce can cost tens of thousands of dollars in some cases. It’s all so overwhelming. You instinctively know that if you were to file for divorce, your spouse would not make it easy on you. This would be considered war in their eyes, meaning they would fight to the death to win. If they happen to have more financial resources at their disposal, this could be very detrimental to you.

A Narcissist During Divorce Proceedings

A narcissist, having no capacity for empathy, will not do anything to cooperate, negotiate, or give in to anything because in their eyes, they must win at all cost. They believe that there can only be one winner.

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Lori Moulton

Certified Transformational Coach, Masters in School Counseling, Teacher, helping others heal from emotionally abusive relationships and build self-love..