You’re the Definition of Courage, During Narcissistic Abuse

Lori Moulton Booty
4 min readJul 13, 2022

Even though you have regrets and feel shameful.

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You’ve Been a Bundle of Emotions

You’ve been through every emotion. At any given moment, you feel shame, fear, regret, anger, and yes, sometimes happiness. There have been many times when you’ve cried yourself to sleep from something the narcissist in your life did to you. You feel broken, bruised, and exhausted.

Over time, you’ve learned how to pick yourself back up. You’ve learned to go to work, take care of the kids, and pay your bills. It hasn’t been easy, but day after day, week after week, you’ve done it.

Courage: (from Oxford dictionary) The ability to do something that frightens one. Strength in the face of pain or grief.

You are the definition of courage. Oh, the narcissist likes to act like they are the one with courage, but actually, they are cowards. They have to bully people to get what they need from them. They have to use mind games and trickery to get you to want to spend time with them.

The narcissist doesn’t do chores around the house. If they do, it is because they can get something out of someone else, like praise from the neighbors for the best garden, or the ability to brag to their friends about how they have to do all the work around the house, are such a good parent, etc.

The narcissist may be successful in their career, which allows them to feel powerful, and hold it over your head. They use their salary to control the financial decisions in the home.

Or, they don’t work at all, having some excuse as to why they can’t find a job. This job is ‘beneath them’, ‘won’t look good on their resume’, or is ‘too far from home’, for example.

Whatever the situation, you are the one with the courage to make it work. You will figure out how to get food for the whole family on a limited budget. You will make sure everyone has clothes, and the bills are paid. You are the one who does all the work around the house.

No Wonder You’re So Freaking Tired!

You find yourself exhausted, maybe even sick with chronic health symptoms. You’ve held everything together for so long. You feel down on yourself because that’s exactly…

Lori Moulton Booty

Certified Transformational Coach, Masters in School Counseling, Teacher, helping others heal from emotionally abusive relationships and build self-love..

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